1. It’s worth the time and trouble to diligently make sure your toddler/preschooler is holding their pencil correctly to begin with. Writing will be easier to learn and less frustrating with the proper pencil hold. Enforcing good habits from the beginning is the way to go. Here’s a link with a tip on how to do it, I haven’t personally tried this, but it sure looks like it would work. I have purchased rubber things that help enforce the correct hold and found them useful. http://rocksinmydryer.typepad.com/shannon/2007/07/works-for-me-te.html
2. If you don’t WANT your children sleeping in your bed with you, then never let them sleep in your bed with you. This is something that is just NOT DONE in our house, not even once. They have occasionally been sick enough that I have slept with them, but I’ve never brought them into our bed. If you don’t want to let this become a habit, it’s worth it to escort them back to their rooms until they get the message. This is not an opinion on co-sleeping. I’m just saying, as a parent, be in charge of this, one way or the other.
3. Turbo charge your reading sessions with preschoolers by helping them make connections. Ask them to identify letters in the title, the look for another one just like it. Count them. Ask what color they are. Do the same for the pictures in the book. What color is the mouse’s hat? How many cookies are there in this picture? Look, there’s a dump truck just like we saw on the way to grandma’s yesterday. Think of way to connect the pictures with other things in their lives. Once they learn a few numbers, you can stop and ask what page you are on. You can also ask whether the characters are happy, sad, etc. and why to boost comprehension.